What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
Lady in red: Women who wear red in online dating profile photos are likely to get more messages and dates than those wearing any other color, says NYU marketing professor Adam Alter in his new book Drunk Tank Pink Researchers from the University of Rochester, New York, for example, found that men are more likely to find a woman attractive, more likely to ask her out, and and are even prepared to spend more money if she is wearing University of Southern Brittany in France, which saw 64 women digitally alter the T-shirt color in their profile photos every two weeks for a year, found that the red tops generated 21per cent of the total messages, compared with 14-16per cent of messages when the red has long been a color linked with sex, love and lust, from a Valentine's heart to a red-light-district - that we have been 'conditioned' to associate the color red with passion - and the reason for this lies in biology.
Some practiced daters have a standard letter they send to every single person they find even mildly attractive.
Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to write a personalized message responding to specific items in your profile, not send a generic cut-and-paste letter saying, “Hey girl, I saw your profile and was intrigued …” Think about the hundreds of other people who’ve gotten the same letter, and decide whether you’re willing to accept only the barest minimum of effort.
It’s great conversation fodder when someone displays snapshots of himself on vacation or out with friends, but it’s reasonable to expect at least one clear picture of his face.
If you receive an impersonal message that seems oddly like a form letter, it probably is.